The Sunday Roast

Let's Meet Single Mom Debbie In Her Complicated World

This week's interview is with Debbie who writes the blog,
A single MOM in a complicated World .

Thank you Debbie

A very warm welcome to you and to your followers


Rogue' s Gallery - lovely family, Debbie

What a good looking lot we have here! . . . and also the 'piccie' at the bottom of your blog.

Here is the first of the standard questions. Why do you blog?

My blog is literally my journal. I did not know much about blogging when I started. I decided I would be raw and open and use my blog as my therapy; my healing. IT was only after I started and people commented on how ‘brave’ I was to bare it all, I realized that not everyone uses their blog as a window to their soul. For me, that’s who I am. I have always been an open book; I have always shared too much. Why stop now? Three years ago, my life went in a direction I never expected or saw coming. My heart was broken and everything I had ever put stock in was turned upside down. In the aftermath of the heartbreak I made a choice that led to even more hurt and destruction. I knew I was not alone, that there were others hurting and trying to find their way in a life that no longer looked liked it used to. I also knew that holding my feelings in was not the way to healing. There is no doubt that as I have journaled , the very act of putting my journey into words has taken the power out of the circumstances and instead transferred that power into the healing, strength and resolve that written words can bring.

What's the story behind your blog name?

Reality! I am a single mom and I must say I think the world has become WAY more complicated since the last time I was single. Admittedly I was 18. Now I am, well, NOT 18. But, facing life single again (and again..*sigh* ) with three kids is complicated beyond description. Then you add in the ex, and his girlfriend! (I try to pretend the second ex never happened, so far that’s working out for me!!Unless you count the fact that I BLOG about it openly and honestly for the world to see, it’s the perfect secret!!LOL!) Then throw in shared holidays, different parenting styles, full time work, and the lack of a dating life (but the threat that it might become an issue one day), and you have one VERY complicated situation. Did I mention I have 2 preteens and a diva?? But, I won’t even go there…that’s another blog in its self I am sure!

What is the best thing about being a blogger?

For me the best part is the therapeutic side effect of baring my heart. I love the people I have met. But, I would blog even if no-one read it. I also love that I can look back on my blog and see how far I come. Sometimes I go back to the first several months of my blog. My brokenness is so evident; it hurts my heart to read it. But, I see now how much I have grown. How much I have learnt and I have faith based on the lessons learnt and chronicled, that a future without destructive choices is within my grasp.

What key advice would you give to a newbie blogger?

I would suggest that a newbie be honest BUT cautious. Do not hurt another or say things you would not want the world to know. It is not an anonymous form of communication.

What is the most significant blog post you've ever read?

Another tough one. I do not believe I can choose on this, because all of the blogs I read are significant in their own way. My time is so limited as a single mom of three. The blogs I read and comment on are blogs that reach me in some form.

What is the most significant blog post you've ever written?

Sunday, February 15, 2009
Don't make any sudden moves!!!!!
To be honest most, if not all, of my posts are significant to my journey. I have held nothing back as I have overcome two heartbreaks and the journey from broken-ness to wholeness. This post is one in which I began to understand why I made some of the choices I did and verbally took the stand needed not to end up there again.

If you were to suggest two blogs for roasting who would you pick, and why?

I will suggest my favorite two blogs to read. BOTH are strong women. And both are very funny. They always lift my spirits and make my heart smile.
Diane's Addled Ramblings
Matter of Fact

That concludes the formal aspect of the interview but it would be nice to get to know you a little better while you are slowly turning on the roasting spit. So while you are screaming in agony above the open fire here are a few more questions for you.

Pick three things you can't live without (no you cannot have ice cubes to cool you down)

My family, my bible , coffee

If you were an ice cream cone, which flavour would you prefer and who would you most want to lick you?

Way to HOT of a question even if this a roast, so I shall pass. (Unless you know Denzel Washington’s favorite ice-cream flavor??? OK pretend I did not say that!! ;)!)

Describe in one sentence your perfect day

A day in the mountains, with a cup of coffee, my children and a great book.

If you were a fictional writer which one would you be and why?

I would LOVE to choose Pat Conroy. I find his books so honest and open. BUT, I do not have his flair for description. So, I will go with Jodi Picoult. Her books are lighter and yet her topics deep and raw.

And finally if you have answered all five questions I invite you to ask me one in return - it's the least I can do. OK fire away!

-I only answered 4 but here's a question just in case.

(Oh that's ok! - you passed on the movie question but ask away - golly what a searching question though!)

What one character trait would you change about yourself if you could?

I am sometimes a little impulsive and I regret on just one or two ocassions not giving sufficient thought to the consequences of my actions, even though at the time they were well intentioned.

Thank you Debbie for a most enjoyable interview.

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Today's Sunday Roast with Debbie is the 105th in a weekly
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Next week, Sanna at Violet Sky