I was shocked to hear the sad news of the sudden death at home last Friday of my friend Trevor Fry, aged just 68.
Trevor was a well loved radio presenter for our local BBC Radio Bristol station, where he worked for 17 years. He loved every minute of his job.
I got to know Trevor around 2000 when I sent him a CD of my daughter, Selina, then aged 18. He loved it and played a number of tracks from it and some of her other recordings almost every night on his late night show for a couple of years. He didn't have to do this! That was the measure of this wonderful man - so kind in every way and always wanting to help whenever he could. He was genuinely interested to promote her and was always thrilled to see evidence of her increased popularity.
Many listeners asked for a copy of her CD which I sent all over the South West Region and beyond, sometimes even abroad. On one occasion Trevor over-ran his news announcement, apologising that he could not interrupt her singing "Autumn Leaves" and couldn't ruin a good rendition of a good song, and finished by saying to his producer, "Sorry Governor, I just couldn't fade her out".
Another time he said, "Well I was going to play The Eagles but someone has asked me to play Selina, so here is the request, 'Schubert's Ave Maria', sung by our own, the lovely Selina!"
News keeps coming in and we now have an opportunity via THIS LINK to hear a tribute to Trevor by another well loved presenter Richard Lewis, who also played Selina on his show regularly.
I wish to pay my deepest respect and condolences to his wife, Sue, and their children.
I am so touched by the stature and generosity of this man - there are tears in my eyes even as I type this. Everybody loved Trevor.
Trevor believed in promoting local talent and we became good friends, with me emailing him regularly on his late night show with various bits of humour, which he often read out on his show. Listeners at that time soon got to know me as well for my contributions, which was great fun - rather like blogging is today. I spoke by phone a few times on his show because he encouraged audience participation; plus of course he liked my sense of humour.
I am so pleased I have a photo of Trevor with my daughter and his son, taken by me around 2001 when Selina did a gig for him for his recorded show, along with other artists, at The Mall shopping centre at Cribbs Causeway, near Bristol.
I heard the sad news from my sister, Maggie May of Nuts In May. She came with us to that event at The Mall and she too met Trevor and his boy. Maggie is equally gutted by the news since she is a regular listener to another programme he hosted on Sunday mornings called "Sunday Starts".
Thank you Trevor for all your support for my daughter, who did make her mark for a few years singing in Bristol and surrounding areas, pubs, clubs, cabaret and church weddings and meeting success in various talent competitions.
You were so generous with your support helping young musicians and singers, like Selina in the area.
We appreciate your help and friendship more than words can tell, and I will miss you greatly, along with all your many friends in Bristol and the entire South West region.
I hope by now you might have met my darling wife Maria who passed on a year before you. I am sure she will be thanking you too.
Trevor was probably the most well loved radio presenter and he will be mourned by friends and colleagues everywhere.
I have another link to an official newspaper announcement for those interested, HERE
I feel so sad today, and rather weepy!
Goodnight Trevor - you were the best!
Until we meet again.
Goodnight Trevor - you were the best!
Until we meet again.
RIP
I'm so sorry! He was way to young! I'm glad you have such fond memories, though. Love the photo of him with Selina!
ReplyDeleteThank's Betsy!
DeleteI can't add any more to my post really but that man really reached many hearts and souls. Selina doesn't know yet but she will be upset when I tell her.
You are so caring Betsy, please never change :)
As you already said I am truly gutted by this news. He was the kindest and most genuine man with a lovely, soothing voice. He presented his programmes and made every listener think he was talking just to them. He wrote little poems which helped *shut ins* to feel they were not alone and encouraged their faith without pushing it down their throats.
ReplyDeleteHis death sees to be totally unexpected.
Makes you think........
Maggie x
Nuts in May
Yes it makes you think!
DeleteLife is much too short for any disunity - one never knows when the grim reaper will arrive unexpectantly. Love Eddie x
Dear Eddie, I already read this in the morning, but did not dare to comment then. Because, being not a native speaker, I am often afraid, that I might not pick the appropriate words, as most often I know the meaning of words, but might fail to see the delicate nuances of meaning. (So if ever I said a thing, which sounded funny to you, rest assured I did not say it on purpose!) And anyway I find it always so difficult to find the right sounding words in the face of a terrible loss, like you have experienced with this friend, who must have been a really remarkable man. All the more so, as it seems quite obvious to me, that the untimely death of this man stirs all your memories of the fate of your beloved wife (and therefore yours, too). And the last thing I want to do is to upset you further... But I could just not get over your post. So I decided to stop marvelling what could be appropriate, but just tell you, that I am really so sorry! For this man, I never knew, and for you, because this death makes you so sad. And Eddie, getting older, I think, we all share the experience, that 'losses' become more and more frequent and that this reminds one of ones own 'future'...It's a real challenge, getting old, isn't it? With all my very best wishes to you Christel
ReplyDeleteChristel - I think you have a way with words too.
DeleteI am so pleased you returned to comment - thank you! Please never hesitate to comment will you..
There would never be any concern if a word or two might be a little different, which actually is not the case, but I would always value your comment very highly.
Yes, Trevor was rather special - thank you for your kindness and comment :)
i am sorry for the loss of your friend
ReplyDeletehe sounds like a good soul, looking out
for the local talent...nice tribute
to him...
Thank you Brian - he was ineed the salt of the earth.
DeleteIt is hard to find someone with genuine feelings for others; your friend sounds exactly like that kind of person.
ReplyDeleteMy sincerest condolences to you, Maggie, and Selina. Gentle hugs to you as you mourn his passing.
Jackie
Thank you Jackie. Yes Trevor was the cream of the crop. I hope Maria came down to meet him and show him home.
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Oops, I didn't delete that comment, it went the instant you posted your reply. sorry, I'll try to remember what I said.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear that you lost a good friend Eddie. It must have been a shock, and I feel for you. I'm not very good at sympathy, you seem such a sensitive and really nice bloke, and I can understand how you must be feeling at a time like this.
Sorry, I forgot the bit about Pat. Speak to you later, I made a right b up of that!
DeleteThanks Keith for your kind words and . . . . you were OK at the sympathy, thanks.
DeleteSorry to hear about your partner, Pat on Belfast Radio. I would be interested to hear more.
Yes, the shock has subsided now . . . . but the poor guy was only 68 and feel dreadfully sorry for his wife and chidren.
Hi Eddie...
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your friend...it never gets any easier does it?
Losing somebody is always a shock...not to be taken lightly....
Hope you are in better spirits real soon...
Cheers!
Linda :o)
Loops...I forgot to mention how lovely your daughter is...
DeleteThanks Linda - he was an A1 kind of guy. He ofter had radio links to Canada and USA on his late night show.
DeleteAnd thanks for the compliment to my daughter - she takes after Maria in looks but has my big heart!
Oh that's to bad - I'm sorry for the loss.
ReplyDeleteThank you SAW - I think all the world would be sorry if they knew him.
DeleteWill be over to visit soon.
Hope you are settled in your new home - looks really nice :)
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I saw this on the news and was then surprised to see that you knew Trevor personally. Take care there Eddie. xx
ReplyDeleteThanks Amy xx
DeleteJust over from Linda's blog, Eddie. I wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your friend's passing. That is far too young these days and I'm sure he will be sadly missed. I, too, lost a friend this week at age 65. Take care, Deb
ReplyDeleteWhy Deb thank you so much for popping over and travelling all that way from across the pond.
DeleteThat is so nice of you and I appreciate it very much. Sorry you lost a friend, too. I'll call on your blog if I may ~ Eddie
May his soul rest in perfect peace, Trevor was a wonderful presenter really enjoyed his broadcasting
ReplyDeleteAgree entirely ~ Eddie
DeleteEddie Im sorry by your lost,, your friend was really Young still and sounds like he was a cool guy!
ReplyDeleteThank you Gloria . . . . . yes, Trevor was a cool guy and much too young to die. :) x
DeleteAwww.. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. What a good soul for being so kind to your daughter. You wrote a beautiful tribute for Trevor. My heart goes out to you and to Selena (who is lovely) and to Maggie.
ReplyDeleteThanks Hilary. Yes he was very kind and thank you for your thoughts.:)
DeleteSo sorry for you loss, Eddie. Doesn't seem fair sometimes as you well know. So glad he was able to help your daughter. Prayers for his family.
ReplyDeleteThanks Julie. Yes, he was rather short changed to be taken so suddenly, but there again sop was Maria (just 62).
DeleteAlways a pleasure to see you :)
I was shocked and deeply saddened to hear of Trevor's untimely passing. My condolences go to his wife and the rest of the family and his many friends and colleagues.
ReplyDeleteI listened to Trevor's program for many years and was always inspired by his warmth and relaxed manner. I will miss him greatly.
David Irving
Cirencester
I agree entirely, David.
DeleteTrevor was a real gentleman.
Thanks for commenting.
Thank you for this tribute to Trevor. I am so saddened and upset by his passing.
ReplyDeleteI considered him to be a friend and know he was a wonderful person.
I am a native of Swindon, Wilts, I emigrated to the US many years ago and now live in Dallas TX. I loved to listen to Trevor via the computer, Sometimes live and sometimes on the listen again feature, now and again I would email him and he would always reply and sometimes read out my message. A genuine and caring soul, so sadly missed.
I cannot believe that we will not hear him again. He played the best music and involved us in his challenges. Often he lifted my spirits when I was down and I loved the way he signed off each night remembering the sick, lonely and the people who lived alone. He was so calming.
My thoughts and prayers go out to his family, such a shock, I wonder if he had been ill.
Thank you Trevor for all the joy you brought to everyone.
Pam in TX.
Pam in Texas!!!!
DeleteDo you know I am sure remember you . . . . . on Trevor's Challenges. I do believe I've heard you a few times on the radio link.. This is amazing!!
I am so pleased you commented - thank you - it has brought back some treasured memories. Eddie x
He sounds like an exceptional man. I feel your grief in your words... a wonderful tribute!
ReplyDeleteThanks V so much - you he was a great guy. :)
DeleteThe impact some people leave, becomes a mile stone.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you had such a personality in your life.
May he RIP.
That's a beautiful memoir.
Thank you and I'll be right over. :)
DeleteSo sorry about Trevor's passing. Sometimes it's so unexpected.....but sad when we realize they are really gone. There wrote a lovely tribute to Trevor and I am his family and friends, thank you for that. What a great joy he helped your daughter. He must be sharing his wonderful music in heaven.....
ReplyDeleteYes no doubt about it, Trevor will be a DJ in Heaven ~ Eddie x
Deleteyou will be sadly missed Trevor I still have a cd that he autographed that I won on his show witch he did after Steve yabsley in the evening Trevor I can here you now teaching the angles all about the music you enjoyed and played don't think you will ever be forgotten or replaced rest in peace old mate till we meet again - Malcolm
ReplyDeleteMalcolm - that was very touching!
DeleteThank you for that comment and I do believe Trevor will have all the angels enthralled with his music and his charm and warm personality ~ Eddie
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ReplyDeleteTrevor Fry Was A Friend To Everyone And He Was The Best One
ReplyDeleteNow Do Sleep Well Trevor Fry Up In The Stars And The Moon Up In The Sky Looking Down
On Us All Trevor Fry God Bless To You Trevor Fry And Do Sleep Well You Will Be Miss By Everyone Trevor Fry Now
Trevor Fry Was A Friend To Everyone And He Was The Best One
ReplyDeleteNow Do Sleep Well Trevor Fry Up In The Stars And The Moon Up In The Sky Looking Down
On Us All Trevor Fry God Bless To You Trevor Fry And Do Sleep Well You Will Be Miss By Everyone Trevor Fry Now